What is Intimacy in Marriage?

The word intimacy originates from the word intimus, which means “in most”. To know the inmost or inter most part of a person is to know them deeply. Human beings have a strong desire to know others and to be known by others. Intimacy is a fundamental need that becomes obvious in a marriage relationship. Because human beings are so complex, there is really no limit to the depth of intimacy, but there are barriers. The primary obstacles are fear and insecurity. Everybody has insecurities, but in order to develop a deeper connection, one must be willing to be open with their spouse about all aspects of themselves, provided it is emotionally safe.

Marriage therapy assists couples in creating an emotionally safe relationship that allows for honesty and transparency. We can’t be truly known by our partner if we aren’t telling them who we really are. As intimacy develops, the couple becomes more connected and relationally fulfilled. Many of the surface marital problems disappear when intimacy is growing.